Category: Let's talk
I would assume that we all join social sites for that very reason --to be social--, which thus means meeting new folk to broaden our perspectives on life. How come is it that one is lightly to come across stuck-up individuals who be pretencious, whilst they know that they are not interested in being your friend. So by this, I would like us to talk about what we as apparent "social people" actually expect from these sites because I keep on wondering, why people join if their intentions are to be party poopers who be spending time being sceptics and suspicious of their so-called "friends".
Different people expect different things.
Some join social networking websites expecting to find love with somebody they've never met. Others join to meet like-minded people. Some will join to meet new people, and others will join for the interactivity. Some people even join because their friends joined and their friends told them to.
When I joined this website, I enjoyed participating in the board discussions and the discussions on quicknotes. I have made a small amount of friends on here, but I'm not trying to be popular. The few friends I have made are people I can get along with, and who I consider to be nice, friendly and interesting.
On Facebook I enjoyed talking on my local network's wall and discussion board with other people I didn't know and made new friends. But then Facebook took that away from us and everybody scattered into groups full of spammers, or with low interactivity. I have joined a few decent groups but again they are single-issue or they got clogged up with junk so finding the stuff I would be interested in required more effort than I could be bothered to make.
On other sites, I don't know any of the users. We all get along and sometimes we disagree. Some of the people have met in person but I have never met any of them. The sites are focused on specific interests, so making friends isn't an expectation when joining.
I think people are more likely to become friends with people they don't know if there is a centralised place where people congregate online. If sites are organised in a way which causes the users to be scattered, it is harder for the users to get to know strangers.
Yeah that's true. I doubt that we all expect to make friends, but surely then the possibility should be there becuase by joining a social site like Zone, you are in essence availing yourself to that possibility. In addition, if you are the least interested in being a friend to a particular person, you should not pretend. Just let them know. What's up with the hypocracy? LOL
Some people, like myself for instance, would like to work on becoming friends with users who are interested, but this takes time. Before I give out my messenger/skype info, I want to make sure that the person in question has interesting things to talk about, that we'll be able to make good conversations, that they won't harass me in any way, and won't try to send me a virus or anything like that. Now, I know those last two are extremes, and that it most likely wouldn't happen, but right now, I have a contact list full of people I don't really want to talk to, not because they've done anything wrong, but because conveersation between the two of us just doesn't work because we just don't have anything in common to talk about.